MONDAY CHOCOLATE MELTDOWN – #BASISFORLOVE
Throughout the weekend, my malice-keeping boyfriend did not call or send a message. I kept wondering what to do. Our emotions were so volatile, and I had no experience at all with this kind of person, or any relationship. In church, our singles’ fellowship avoided the topic of sex like the ebola virus.
After service on Sunday, I made bold and asked to see my pastor’s wife. I knew she would be too embarrassed to ask intimate questions because she was not the outspoken type. I only hoped she’d be able to advise on how to handle Aaron.
Asking was awkward but I had to. “Ma, please what’s a Christian relationship supposed to be like?”
She was a middle-aged woman, and had been married for more than twenty years. I knew her advice would be invaluable.
“I assume you’re in a relationship?”
“Well, yes ma. He proposed but I’ve not directly replied. But we are dating.”
“Hmm, this dating thing.”
“Is it wrong, ma?”
“Depends on what you mean by dating. What do you do together?”
Thursday night dropped on my face and I looked at my fingers. The guilt of it could not be hidden.
“You slept together?”
I shook my head. “No, ma. I’m sorry. We—we kissed.” I scratched my neck. “For a long time.”
She sighed. “You feel guilty about it, don’t you?”
I nodded. “He doesn’t think much of it.”
“I want to believe you share the same faith?”
“We do.” I shrugged. “He just waived it off somehow. I’m scared we’d do more next time we are alone.”
“That is what you should fear and avoid.” Pastor’s wife held my hand. “Imagine this, what does the Bible mean when it says flee every appearance of evil? You feel ashamed now, don’t you?”
I nodded again.
“Then you shouldn’t allow it to happen again.” She sat forward. “Is he working?”
“Both of you should come and see Pastor. You need to start with the marriage counseling. It takes three months.” She held my gaze. “Or you don’t want to marry him?”
“I want to.”
“Good. Fix an appointment at the office. You need to work on your ability to control your emotions. And you have at least three months to do it.”
Three months! It looked like forever.
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